Communication and Friends

Communicationand Friends

Communicationand Friends

Peoplemake friends to share life moments and find support. In most cases,friendships are established between people who trust each other andare willing to cooperate in different issues. Friendship is definedas a voluntary association that exists between individuals who areequals and have a mutual influence on each other (Jones, 2013). Inthis paper, I will discuss the matchup between my friendship with thedescription provided in the chapter “Communication and friends”,summarize the article “Differences between Friendship &amp FamilyRelationships in Interpersonal Communication”, and friendships onsocial media.

Friendshipsacross life stages

Ahuman being enters different developmental stages that are determinedby change in age and interest. Currently, I am in the adulthoodstage, where continuity and stability are the key priorities. Theadulthood stage starts at 30 years and ends at 65 years of age(Jones, 2013). My friends match with those described in the chapter“Communication and friends”, in two ways. First, most of myfriends come from places where I spend more time, which include theworkplace and the neighborhood. Secondly, I find friends more usefuland supporting in processing emotions and thoughts than in any of mypast developmental stages. This is confirmed by the stressfulsituations when friends become a great resource in helping meovercome psychological challenges.

Froma personal experience, friends are likely to change withdevelopmental changes as considered in the chapter “Communicationand friends”. This change in friends can be attributed to two majorfactors, which include a change in opportunities for an individual toestablish social networks and a change in priorities as one grows up.For example, adolescents have more opportunities to establish socialnetworks and make friendships different people, while adults are heldby work and family obligations, which limit their range of friends tothose in the their neighborhoods and work settings. However, someadults are still able to establish closer friends outside their worksettings and neighborhood depending on where they spend their leisuretime and balance between work and life.

of the article

Thearticle “Differences between friendship and family relations ininterpersonal communication” was authored by Emma Wells andpublished by Global Post. The article holds that the familyrelationships are stronger than friendships. Wells reported thatfriends communicate more frequently because their relationships ismore fragile and depends on the level of contact. However, familymembers are more likely to limit the amount of time that they areavailable to other members via email and phone, as opposed to friendswho communicate freely. In addition, family members may havedifferent personalities, behavior, and tastes that limit the level ofassociation among them. Emil also reported that relationships withinthe family predict the size and closeness that one can have infriendships.

Oneof the most surprising findings reported in the article “Differencesbetween friendship and family relations in interpersonalcommunication” is the capacity of family relationships to predictone’s friendship. This is surprising because it is not easy toimagine that the size of one’s family is proportional to the numberof friends that is able to make. Maintaining a regular contact orcommunication is the most reliable strategy that one can use tonurture the most crucial friendships. This is because emotional tiesamong friends are established and maintained through communication,unlike the family bonds that are established by biological factors(Wells, 2016).

Friendshipsvia the social media

Thesocial media platform facilitates the establishment of both true anduntrue friendships. A research conducted by Lenhart (2015) revealedthat about 94 % of teens who use the social media spend most of theirtime with their usual or physical friends on the social media becauseit gives them the opportunity to keep track of what is happening inthe lives of their friends. This means that true friendship thatexists in the physical world and transferred to the virtual world.However, there are social media users who establish false friendshipsto accomplish ill motives (such as sexual exploitation of otherusers) or for fun.


Friendshipchanges in different developmental stages due to different prioritiesand settings in which people find themselves in. During adulthood,people are more interested in stability and continuity, which limittheir ability to establish friendships in their workplaces andneighborhood. In addition, friendships are mainly nurtured andmaintained through regular communication, as opposed to familyrelationships that are based on biological ties. Moreover, thefriendships that are established in the social media may be true orfalse. The true friendships established in the social media includethe physical friendships that are transferred to the virtual world asfriends try to share most of their life moments online.


Jones,G. (2013). Communicationin the real world: An introduction to communication studies.Washington, DC: Flat World Education, Inc.

Lenhart,A. (2015). Socialmedia and friendship.Washington, DC: Pew Research Center.

Wells,E. (2016). Differences between friendship and family relationships ininterpersonal communication. GlobalPost.Retrieved February 17, 2016, from